Day 29: United

One thing I have realised while living so far away from my place of birth is the need to be united with my husband and children. We have had to adapt to so many new things; and have often felt like strangers in the place we have chosen to live. We have traveled together as we have gone about the city figuring out the Canadian protocol in so many things we took for granted “back home”. My husband and I have been united in our desire to understand as we forayed into an education system unknown to us on behalf of our children.

As a family, we spend much time together. Weekends are spent either working together (the girls at their homework and the parents at their obligations at home), eating together, or going out together. Part of the reason we are united, I think, is that we spend plenty of time with one another. I am grateful that we all get along and that our home is not filled with discord and tension.

Being united as a family has certainly been a saving grace for me during times of homesickness, of longing for my own parents, of frustration and of disappointment. If we had not been united in our resolve and our commitment to one another, experiences may have turned out differently.

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© Colline Kook-Chun, 2014

(This post was written for the FMF 31 day challenge hosted by Kate Motaung. Today’s prompt is: unite)

19 thoughts on “Day 29: United

  1. Do you think that because you are strangers in a new place that has really brought you together more? It is funny, not sure the right word, but how they say tragedy or something like you have done will make your marriage or break. My husband and I certainly felt closer in Denmark and a recent thing that happened in our family also brought us closer. Though I wasn’t sure how we were going to survive the last thing together, but we did.


    1. I truly believe that being alone, away from other family members, has brought us closer together. We have had only one another to rely on – and no one to interfere in our relationship. The hardships we have faced together sometimes others cannot understand and so we are able to talk to one another about them.

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  2. My husband and I moved away shortly after we were married. We were the first in the family to move away. I truly think this strengthened our marriage, and then when the children came along, even more so. As the children grew up we became a very united family, and remain so to this day, and they are well into adulthood.


  3. A close knit family can undertake adjustments more easily.
    You tend to grow and learn from each other, and appreciate each others learning pattern.


  4. You always sound such a close family Colline, as long as the ‘communication lines’ stay open I feel families can pull together through some awful times . Lovely to hear so honestly how you’ve coped with such a move . The weekend is just round the corner … enjoy 🙂


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